Spock finds himself forced into proving his love for his wife that he had married at age 7through his parents. This got me wondering if having a chosen wife differs that much from true love. The obvious answer is that a chosen wife is someone chosen by your family who think they know you and what your preferences are. Usually the wife chosen is picked, not because of the girl herself, but because of the family that she comes from. When chosen at a young age, the parents are basically marrying families not people. People say that following in love with someone is when you just know in your heart that, that person is right for you. But, how do we discover these people? Coincidence meeting somewhere? Perhaps sitting by each other in the same class or meeting someone new at a party. People usually meet the love of their life randomly and don’t really choose who it is, it just happens. So since most people meet the love of their life in a random situation and further progress the relationship afterwards. Is this any different than your parents randomly selecting someone for you to marry? In my opinion, there is still a difference but not as big of one as I once thought.
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Chosen marriages are rough on someone who is not satisfied with who he or she is paired up with. Personally, I would dislike the whole idea of marrying someone I am not interested in at all. You have some good questions in your blog. Sometimes people do not look for love and it comes to them. That's why life is hectic because we don't know what is going to happen next.
ReplyDeleteI know my parents always have the best intentions for me, but I would not want them to choose my wife for me. When it comes to marrage, the two people should mutually agree to spend the rest of their lives together
ReplyDeleteDid you know that in some arranged marriages, the couple doesn't actually meet for the first time until their wedding day?
ReplyDeleteAlso, I was reading this book once by Sylvia Browne (a psychic lady with really far out ideas) and she'd said that no one can ever really meet their true soulmates/ other halves because most people's soulmates are from a different lifetime. I was wondering what you thought about that....?
I know that I would never want to be in an arranged marriage, however, I don't feel as though it's the worst thing a parent could do. Granted, the couple may not have picked eachother if they didn't have an arranged marriage, but quite often, the couple ends up falling in love anyways because they spend so much time together and have to trust eachother. I don't really know. Just a thought.
ReplyDeletePs-Jackie! I heard about that too and I think it's crazy that most people's soulmates are from other lifetimes.
Thanks Jackie! yes I knew in some, more traditional, cultures that the couples do not meet until the day of the wedding but the most common for is to meet and bond during the engagement period. Also, that whole soulmate comment is very interesting
ReplyDeleteMike- That's a good point, saying that some people fall in love after they've already married. I think that is that happens, then they are really lucky to have found someone in such a way that, for some, wouldn't have been would have just led to a divorce.
ReplyDeleteAll of this kind of reminds me of "The Simpsons" when Apu has to marry a woman, and they end up having 8 kids. By the way Sam, this is a really good topic:)